Dating at times is too difficult for many. In spite of being “connected” with many people via web 2. 0, many singles still realize it’s an almost impossible task to find their loved ones, develop and maintain a good satisfying intimate relationship.
Taking responsibility for your success or catastrophe at relationships is a key to making a significant modification leading to success. It is as long as you take responsibility and be accepted as truly motivated to understand, once and for all, what hinders your initiatives that you embark on the road to make sure you success.
It is as you ask yourself these – and various – questions; when you glance inwards and observe yourself; and when you develop your Self-Awareness, that you can finally de-activate the power these factors have exerted upon you, and free yourself to re-think the way you approach partners and family relationships.
It is as if meeting “the best suited person” stays only a good dream. Many singles vacation resort to hiring personal motorcoaches, advisors or dating advisors with the task of complimenting them with the “right” man, convincing themselves that they are basically too busy to look, investigation and find.
May well these be unrealistic targets and fantasies about lovers and relationships which drive you to expect the out of the question (and blame your partners time and again)? May possibly this be your perception of reality, being convinced that “your way” in thinking, feeling and executing things is always “the right way”, and your partner’s “the wrong way”?
Subsequently, it makes no improvement on how many dates each goes and how many relationships they will attempt to develop: they fail over and over again, for the simple rationale that they just never take the time to understand what they do of which harms their attempts.
Self-Awareness might be the only roads you haven’t taken so far in your attempts to find a spouse with whom to develop a thriving intimacy. Paradoxically enough, this will be the only road which can require your there.
But is it actually so? Is it really a general shortage of time that inhibits these from finding the right person? Or could it be that even when they meet a potential partner many singles just do not know how to develop a healthy and successful relationship? Could it be oftentimes unaware of the many ways in which they will sabotage their attempts for intimacy?
That they therefore resort to finding 1 and thousand excuses to make sure you justify their failures, not the least is: shortage of energy. Resorting to dating services is usually one way to not take responsibility for their failed attempts. “Let someone else do the job”, they tell themselves, “Then it will not be my sole responsibility for yet another failed attempts. “
Time and again I find out singles who, without even knowing it, shoot themselves in the foot in family relationships. Being unaware of doing so, they don’t know what they need to change in order to succeed next time around.
Taking responsibility means: you decide, once and for all, to become alert to a host of factors that drive you to fail in your relationships. Could it be your thought patterns towards the other sex? May well these be your doubts and needs which travel you to behave in self-sabotaging ways? Could these become messages you internalized during a young age about how relationships “should” look like – emails which now, as an adult, come back to haunt you?